Bitch Moves

Miss Cherry has found that there are certain types of women who love subtle destruction in the game of love. To these women, it’s like the board game…War. Goal…total “world” domination. Since Miss Cherry is currently on a dating hiatus, it affords her the luxury of true observation of the mating habits of the species. I mean, if you aren’t all fuzzy brained and actively involved in the day by day love of another, it gives you a load of time to watch the comings and goings of people in love, lust, desperation and boredom.

“What in the Hell is this? Are you okay?”

“What do you mean? Sure, I’m okay.”

“No, you most certainly are not. You look like the Unabomber or a Duck Dynasty reject.”

“Well, I just finished work.”

“No, it’s more than that. Does your girlfriend tell you that this looks good?”

“She likes me this way.”

“No, she doesn’t. She is filling you with a load of bullshit. This is what we women call…a bitch move. She doesn’t want other women to look at you, so she is making you look like a Mad Mountain Man Sack of Shit. You are too good looking to let yourself go. Get a haircut, and shave that crap off of your face – or at least take it to a #1 blade – just, clean it up.”

Bitch Move #1 – Make your man unattractive to the opposite sex by manipulating him into looking his worst. Fatten him up…make him look like he just escaped from a psycho ward. Hide his looks and personality. Why? Because you are insecure that he will find another woman attractive- and if she finds him attractive – then, your man will leave you. Bitch should be shot

Friend Move against Bitch Move #1 – Remind your friend that he should always bring his best to the table of life. Yell at him until he gets it all back together. Follow up on the personal renovation…and give sincere encouragement and praise. Why?

A woman wants her man to bring his best, and be his best. We don’t seek to hide his light, or diminish it to the world. Miss Cherry wants her man to shine. A woman, who is so insecure that she would diminish her man, is not a woman worth having. When you see a friend being manipulated by a bitch move…bitch block it. Bitch be gone.

Miss Cherry went with her friends to watch a band play. One of Miss Cherry’s friends had a very nice relationship going with the lead guitarist. There you go. As musicians have a “following”, this means that there were groups of women– and when you get a group of single, middle-aged women in bedazzled jeans, spandex and animal prints together in one room –couple it with Cranberry, Vodka and Soda -  bitch moves are bound to happen.

As the lead guitarist watched my beautiful friend sway to the music, one of his “followers” moved herself around the table and directly into his line of vision – basically, blocking my friend. She then sat there and made comments, and smirked to her friends. When my friend went out on the dance floor, this “lady” brought out her “posse” who then surrounded my friend and sought to drive her off the floor by exclusion and snickering.

Bitch Move #2 – Draw all attention to yourself, block out all other women and control your man. Guys, this isn’t a compliment. This isn’t an indicator of how much this woman loves you. What this means is this…you are going to be smothered, controlled and gelded. After all, your big boy pants haven’t arrived, and you need this woman to tell you how to act, at what you can look and then…bottom line, what you want. You, unfortunately, don’t get a choice.

Friend Move against Bitch Move #2 – My friend didn’t need a friend move. She had it under control. She naturally exuded class and elegance, rising above the group of washed up, redneck Cougars. Matter of fact, she acted like she didn’t even know it was happening. Kudos to my friend. And to the other “ladies”…Bitches be gone.

Now…this one is advanced. It requires that you understand that women understand how a man’s brain is hard wired for physical attraction. What turns a man on?  Big news flash…we know that men are extremely visual. We know that men are extremely sexual. We know that those two extremes fire off and connect to make a man sometimes do things that get him in a lot of trouble later. A lot of pleasure, coupled with big, big trouble…if with the wrong woman.

There are women who understand that the man that they are pursuing has an “object of his affection”…and it isn’t her…or at least, not on the familiar, tried and true affection level.  Don’t get me wrong…this woman is going to get all of the attention she will ever want later when she takes this man to bed…but in the meantime…between she and the bedroom stands her “object of affection’s” – “object of affection.”   Point is…the woman is threatened by the obvious friendship between her man and this other person.  Jealousy ain’t pretty. Chunking fits ain’t pretty. So…

Bitch Move #3 – Make a mans head explode with a visual comparison between you and his object of affection. The woman pulling the Bitch Move believes herself to be more attractive or appealing than the OOA, and this is a classic attempt to force the man to visually choose. Spark a visual comparison, and chase it with sex. Kind of like a Jaeger Bomb to a man’s brain. This is accomplished by dancing sexual with the woman you are attempting to dethrone. When you couple the Jaeger Bomb with the visual of two women together…he’s toast.

Friend Move against Bitch Move #3 – Don’t play. This isn’t a competition…especially, if you refuse to compete. Don’t let another woman manipulate you to manipulate the man they obviously don’t quite have yet. If you catch yourself in the middle of this bitch move, the best way to pull yourself out…is to pull her “object of affection” out on the dance floor…and deposit him right in front of her. Then, exit stage left. Women don’t let other women use them for bitch moves. Bitch be gone.

There are so many bitch moves out there to discuss. So rather than discuss them all, let’s just take it to the bottom line.  A bitch move is an action which a woman knowingly completes to manipulate a man.  Manipulate his emotions; senses…manipulate his love, affection. Use the people in his life…friends, family, children…to get what they want. A bitch move is when someone is lying about their intent, and perpetuating that lie in support of an agenda. Bitch moves are subterfuge. They take the nature of the other person, and use it as a weapon against them, effectively wounding the other person right in the heart of trust.

You would think that women would learn that bitch moves don’t last. Eventually, sooner rather than later, a manipulated man will rise up to move on. Unfortunately, the women that follow the Bitch Mover will take the brunt force of what she has done.

“Women are conniving bitches.”

“Women can’t be trusted.”

“Women manipulate men through sex.”

“All women are… (fill in the blank)…and lie to men.”

These aren’t the words of one man. These are the words of many, many men. So many, that frankly…as a woman…it embarrasses me that women act this way. These statements are the direct result of a person being the recipient of bitch moves. To the recipient, this is now their truth. For a woman who doesn't utilize bitch moves, we know that these women hurt us all. The statements above aren't true about all to all...but they are true for some about some.

For women, like Miss Cherry, who don’t believe bitch moves show integrity in the art of love, friendship, life…there is hope. Hope, only if you don’t lose your spark by taking all of this personally. It isn’t about you. It’s about what a person has been through and how it made them feel. Understanding and boundaries. And by all means, don’t let someone project the actions and damage of another onto you. Transference sucks. Know how you are hard wired. Then, stand your ground. Truly loving someone always wins out over bitch move damage. Love prevails. Relationships take on many sizes, shapes and colors...let it be.

Good friends don’t let good friends get manipulated. A good woman doesn’t wield bitch moves. Period. A good man understands that all actions are individual, and not part of the collective. Eyes wide open, mouth shut. Bitch be gone.

What’s the cost?  Manipulation is psychological abuse. It will cost years to eradicate. One of the most important things to remember, for a recipient of bitch moves is this…just as all women aren’t bitches and manipulative…all men aren’t assholes. Matter of fact, the actual bitch movers and assholes out there are few and far between. They just seem to stand out – because their actions and manipulations are so emotionally violent. But really, they are just not that important in the big scheme of things. After all, we live in a big, wonderful world. For every person who acts badly, there are healthy hundreds just waiting to give and receive some sincere love, affection, loyalty and devotion.

One bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch, boy. Good love is on the way.

I told y’all that Miss Cherry was going to be taking on some of the hard issues. Bitch moves, and manipulation…doozies. Glad it’s been covered, as it’s been on my mind for years and years, going way, way back.  There is another story in there...and its another doozy. Though, more appropriate for “Stiletto in the Eye”...so y'all will just have to wait. J

 Aren’t you glad Miss Cherry has a laptop, internet connection, and showers you with her words?

Oh, no, no…by all means...you’re so very welcome.

Love,

Miss Cherry